Are we failing them ?

I don't even know where to start with this but raising teenagers is a very important and at times challenging job, we love our kids so much and want to give them all the very best things in life.....we support them and encourage them to do their very best in everything. But are we doing too much or giving too much instead of being what they need - not just giving what they want?

In our home, we have rules, just like most, but the thing I have noticed is that children/teens/young adults do not have the same kind of respect for us as we did and were expected to or there would have been consequences. Have you ever seen a child freak out in Walmart or Target ...wherever. I've seen it, I've seen it a lot and I don't like it at all. The parent is standing there in embarrassment while this small or big kid gives them and anyone else in ear shot, a few words. Not always kind or appropriate words.

I don't know about you but the first thing I think to myself is Lord give them strength because it's really scary what is happening in our world today, and how much our young people have changed. Let me say that I also believe there is plenty of good inside all kids, they need love nurturing attention, they need to feel and know without a doubt that they are loved so much by their parents or guardians, they need to know we believe in them, that we support them and will always be there, be available when they need you.

And can we PLEASE stop acting like the things they are concerned or worried about are silly or no big deal. That is damaging friends. Now they feel like you don't care. We are all guilty of some sort of negative words said to someone else, in the midst of anger we may want to hurt that person back or we may just push it down, not wanting to be confrontational. Just as damaging if not even worse the type of person who pushes it down.

Recently friends of ours lost their mom and dad due to a horrible shooting. The shooter was one of their own adult children. It's a horrible tragedy that you only see in Lifetime movies, you know that would never happen around here - But unfortunately, it did and it changes the way you think about parent/child relationships. What are we not doing? What are we doing wrong? I have had my own personal childhood trauma, a lot of us have a story or memory of something that hurt us as a kid - physical, mental. It could be something really tragic or something as common as getting smacked with a fly swatter or popped with a flip flop. How did we get here? We can chat about it a bit more if anyone is interested.

You know someone once said to me "well you always post-religious stuff so I wasn't sure" and this is somehow a problem or related to what exactly...I thought.

I LOVE JESUS, OUR GOD AND HIS SPIRIT more than anything. Who do you turn to when things are hard, tragic, or urgent? In my personal life and experience's I have seen people come together crying out to Jesus in the midst of a tragedy - but then it's back to our iPhone and "ok I can be back in charge of my own life now.

We all desire to love and be loved. A connection to others to share life with. The more we allow ourselves to have an issue with being obedient the farther away we will be from what's best for us. JESUS gives so much to those who are obedient to HIM, the obedience is needed for our own good. We forget that sometimes and that's why I urge you to get back into your bible and have a chat with the LORD. Everything will change after that.

Blessings to you my friends. B xo

“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”

PROVERBS 22:6

“All your children shall be taught by the Lord, and great shall be the peace of your children.”

ISAIAH 54:13

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